CODEPENDENCY

What Is Codependency?

Being codependent means that someone is overly reliant on another person for their emotional well-being, approval, or self-worth, often to the point of sacrificing their own needs, desires, and boundaries.

Codependency is a complex and often misunderstood pattern of behavior where one person becomes overly dependent on another, usually to the point of sacrificing their own emotional, physical, or spiritual well-being. This dependency often manifests in relationships where one person may feel the need to "rescue" or "fix" the other, often enabling unhealthy behaviors or addictions without setting healthy boundaries. It is a dynamic that can trap both individuals in an unhealthy cycle, where one person becomes the "giver" and the other becomes the "taker," leading to manipulation and control.

Key Aspects of Codependency:

  1. Over-dependence on Another Person: Codependent individuals often rely on someone else for their emotional needs, happiness, and self-worth. This reliance can lead to unhealthy dynamics where the codependent person’s identity and well-being are tied up in the actions or needs of another.

    • Example: A person who constantly sacrifices their own needs to keep someone happy, even at the cost of their own emotional health, is displaying codependent behavior.
  2. Control and Manipulation: In a codependent relationship, one person may seek to control or manipulate the other, often under the guise of "helping" or "caring." The codependent person may believe that they are responsible for the other person's well-being, which leads to enabling and unhealthy attachment.

    • Example: A spouse may constantly enable their partner’s addiction by making excuses for them or covering up their behavior instead of confronting the problem. In this way, the addict may never face the consequences of their actions.
  3. Codependency as a Relationship Addiction: Codependency is often referred to as a "relationship addiction" because it involves a compulsive need to "fix" or "save" the other person. This can feel just as addictive as other behaviors, such as substance abuse or gambling, because the person’s sense of purpose becomes wrapped up in the dynamics of the relationship.

    • Example: Someone who feels their identity is solely defined by how much they can do for others, often neglecting their own needs, may be addicted to the role of "caretaker" or "savior."
  4. Enabling Dysfunctional Behavior: A common characteristic of codependency is the act of enabling. In many cases, a codependent person may allow another person’s harmful or destructive behavior to continue unchecked, out of a fear of abandonment or a misplaced sense of responsibility.

    • Example: A parent who enables their child’s drug use by constantly bailing them out of trouble without ever setting boundaries is enabling that addiction to continue.

Biblical Perspective on Codependency

From a biblical standpoint, codependency is often rooted in idolatry and a lack of healthy dependence on God. God desires for us to rely on Him as our ultimate source of life, strength, and security. When we depend on others in unhealthy ways, we may forsake God’s provision and fail to set the boundaries He intends for our relationships.

Scripture:

“My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.” (Jeremiah 2:13, NIV)

In this passage, God speaks to Israel about forsaking Him, the true source of living water, and seeking fulfillment elsewhere. Similarly, in codependent relationships, individuals can forsake God’s sufficiency and try to find their worth, security, and fulfillment in others. However, just as broken cisterns cannot hold water, these attempts at finding fulfillment in others will never provide lasting satisfaction. True emotional and spiritual fulfillment can only come from God.

The Bible does not explicitly mention the term "codependency,"  it does offer wisdom on healthy relationships, personal responsibility, and the importance of caring for one another in ways that avoid enabling unhealthy behavior. Codependency often involves unhealthy reliance on others, where one person’s well-being becomes overly dependent on another, potentially leading to manipulation, control, or neglect. Here are some key scriptures that address aspects of codependency, particularly those that highlight the need for healthy boundaries, personal responsibility, and mutual love and support:

  • Galatians 6:2-5 (NLT): “Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.”

    • This verse encourages us to bear one another’s burdens but also emphasizes personal responsibility. In a codependent relationship, one person may take on too much of another's burdens at the expense of their own well-being. The Bible calls us to help others without neglecting our own responsibilities.

  • Matthew 7:3-5 (NLT): “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.”

    • This scripture speaks to the importance of self-awareness and addressing our own issues before trying to fix others. In a codependent relationship, people may neglect their own needs or issues in order to focus solely on helping someone else. God calls us to care for ourselves while still offering support to others.

  • 1 Corinthians 10:24 (NLT): “Don’t be concerned for your own good but for the good of others.”

    • This verse speaks to selflessness and love for others. While this is important in relationships, it is essential to find balance. Codependency often results in someone sacrificing their own well-being to the detriment of themselves. Healthy relationships encourage mutual care, not self-neglect.

  • 1 Peter 5:7 (NLT): “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”

    • In the context of codependency, this verse encourages us to bring our burdens to God rather than relying on others to carry them for us. We are called to lean on God for support and care rather than looking to people to fulfill what only God can provide.

  • Romans 12:3 (NLT): “Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us.”

    • This verse calls for humility and an honest evaluation of ourselves. In codependent relationships, one person may inflate their sense of responsibility or feel an unhealthy obligation to fix others. God wants us to see ourselves clearly and not take on more than we are equipped to handle.

  • 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NLT): “Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?”

    • This verse highlights the importance of healthy boundaries in relationships. Codependency can involve merging identities or becoming too enmeshed with others, which can lead to unhealthy dynamics. God calls us to form relationships where we are not unequally yoked and where mutual respect and balance are maintained.

  • Philippians 2:4 (NLT): “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”

    • This scripture emphasizes the balance between caring for others and maintaining healthy boundaries. While it’s important to be concerned for others, we are also called to respect our own needs.

These scriptures provide insight into the need for balance in relationships. While it is important to care for others and support them, it is also crucial to maintain boundaries, avoid unhealthy dependence, and care for our own well-being. God calls us to engage in relationships that are based on love, mutual respect, and personal responsibility, not codependency.

God Wants You to Depend on Him

  • To totally rely on Him, not on people or things or self-effort. (Psalm 73:26)
  • To believe that He will meet all of your needs. You can safely reveal your hurts, your fears, and your needs to God.  (Isaiah 58:11)
  • To trust in Him to take care of your loved ones. (Psalm 62:8)
  • To rely on Christ, whose life in you will enable you to overcome any destructive dependency. (1 John 4:4)
  • Examine your patterns of codependent thinking.  (Acts 24:16)

Key Characteristics of Codependency

1. Emotional Dependence:
A codependent person feels responsible for another’s emotions or happiness and is often consumed by the idea of making the other person feel better, even at their own expense.

They derive their self-worth from how much they can give to or do for others, often neglecting their own needs and desires.

2. Loss of Self-Identity:
Codependents often lose sight of their own identity because their lives revolve around the needs of someone else. They may feel like they don’t exist outside of their relationship with that person and often struggle with defining their own wants, needs, or goals.

3. People-Pleasing and Fear of Rejection:
A codependent individual often goes to great lengths to please others to avoid conflict, disapproval, or rejection. This can involve saying yes to things they don’t want to do or suppressing their own opinions and feelings to keep the peace.

4. Enabling Dysfunctional or Addictive Behavior:
Enabling is a hallmark of codependency. A codependent person may make excuses for the other person’s unhealthy or destructive behavior, cover up for them, or rescue them from the consequences of their actions—especially if the person they are involved with is an addict, abuser, or someone with other dysfunctions.
 

By doing so, they inadvertently encourage the other person’s behavior and prevent them from facing the reality of their situation, which can prolong or worsen the problem.

5. Lack of Boundaries:
Codependent individuals struggle with setting healthy boundaries. They often don’t know where their responsibilities end and others’ begin, leading to emotional exhaustion, frustration, and sometimes resentment.

They may feel guilty or anxious when they try to set boundaries, especially if doing so means disappointing the person they are trying to help.

6. Fixing or Rescuing Others:
Codependents often feel a strong urge to “fix” or “rescue” others, even when it’s not their responsibility to do so. This can be especially true if the other person is dealing with an addiction, emotional dysfunction, or abusive behavior.

While the intention may be to help, the outcome is often harmful because it keeps the other person from taking responsibility for their own actions or seeking proper help.

7. Perfectionism:
A codependent person may feel that in order to be loved or appreciated, they must be perfect or meet certain standards. This can manifest as trying to control everything around them, including the behavior of others, to ensure everything is "just right."

God’s Heart on Codependency

God’s heart on codependency can be understood by examining His desire for healthy, balanced relationships that promote mutual love, respect, and personal responsibility. Codependency often involves one person sacrificing their well-being or sense of self in order to care for another, often enabling unhealthy behaviors. This dynamic is not aligned with God’s plan for His children. Instead, God calls us to love and serve others, but in a way that preserves our own identity and well-being, and encourages others to take responsibility for their own lives.

Here are some key aspects of God's heart regarding codependency:

  1. God Calls Us to Healthy, Balanced Relationships
    In relationships, God desires that both people are supported and encouraged in their walk with Him without one person carrying the burdens of the other to an unhealthy degree. God wants us to serve and love others but not at the cost of our own spiritual, emotional, or physical health. He calls us to care for others but also encourages us to recognize our own needs and limits.

    • Galatians 6:2 (NLT): "Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ."

      • God encourages us to help others but also emphasizes that we should not take on all the responsibility for their lives. We are to bear each other's burdens, but in a way that does not enable unhealthy behavior or disregard our own needs.

  2. God Desires Personal Responsibility
    Codependency often involves one person taking on the responsibility for another’s choices, emotions, or behaviors, which can create an unhealthy dynamic. God calls each of us to be responsible for our own actions and well-being. He desires that we help others without doing their work for them, which can ultimately hinder growth and personal responsibility.

    • Romans 14:12 (NLT): "Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God."

      • God desires that we take responsibility for our own lives and actions. We are each accountable to God for how we live, and we should encourage others to take responsibility for their own actions as well.

  3. God Wants Us to Set Healthy Boundaries
    Boundaries are an essential part of healthy relationships. Codependency often involves blurred boundaries, where one person’s needs or issues overwhelm the other. God calls us to love others, but also to establish boundaries that protect our hearts, minds, and spirits.

    • Proverbs 4:23 (NLT): "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life."

      • God calls us to protect our hearts and lives from being overwhelmed by others' needs. This is essential to maintaining a healthy, loving relationship with others and with Him.

  4. God’s Heart is for Wholeness, Not Enabling Dysfunction
    Codependency can enable destructive patterns of behavior in others, such as addiction, irresponsibility, or manipulation. God’s heart is for healing and restoration, not for enabling sin or dysfunction. He wants us to help others in ways that lead to spiritual and emotional growth, not in ways that keep them stuck in unhealthy patterns.

    • James 5:19-20 (NLT): "My dear brothers and sisters, if someone among you wanders away from the truth and is brought back again, you can be sure that whoever brings the sinner back from wandering will save that person from death and bring about the forgiveness of many sins."

      • God calls us to bring others back to truth and healing, not to enable destructive behaviors. Our love and support should encourage growth, not perpetuate unhealthy dependence.

  5. God Calls Us to Love, Not to Be Overwhelmed by Others
    Love is central to the Christian faith, but it is not meant to be a love that overwhelms or harms us. God wants us to love others freely, without being controlled, manipulated, or losing our sense of identity.

    • 1 John 4:19 (NLT): "We love each other because he loved us first."

      • God’s love for us is unconditional and healthy. He calls us to love others in the same way, but this love should not come at the cost of our own well-being or identity.

In summary, God’s heart on codependency is that He desires healthy, balanced relationships where we care for one another, encourage one another, and support each other in our walk with Him, without enabling unhealthy patterns or losing our own sense of self. God’s desire is for us to love and serve others while also maintaining boundaries and personal responsibility. His heart is one of love, truth, healing, and growth—not of enabling dysfunction or unhealthy dependence.

What Is Dependency?

Dependency, at its core, refers to the reliance on something or someone else for support, strength, or existence. As human beings, we are inherently created to be dependent. However, the key distinction lies in what we are dependent on. While God designed us to be dependent on Him alone, we often find ourselves depending on other things, people, or behaviors to meet our emotional, physical, or spiritual needs.

In the context of our relationship with God, healthy dependency is a reliance on Him for all aspects of life. This dependency leads to peace, growth, and fulfillment. However, dependency can also take unhealthy forms when it shifts to something other than God—whether it’s substances, behaviors, or even other people.

1. Dependency as a Reliance on God

From the moment of conception to the moment of death, God created us to be dependent on Him alone. This dependency is not a weakness; rather, it’s a fundamental part of our design. God intended for us to rely on Him for strength, wisdom, guidance, and provision. Our relationship with Him is meant to be a constant source of life and sustenance.

Scripture:
“In him we live and move and have our being.” (Acts 17:28, NIV)

This verse emphasizes that God is the source of our very existence. We are designed to be fully dependent on Him, acknowledging that every breath we take, every provision we receive, and every strength we possess comes from God.

2. Positive vs. Negative Dependency

Dependency can take both positive and negative forms, depending on what or who we rely on.

  • Positive Dependency: This is the healthy reliance on God, where we trust in His provision, care, and guidance. We depend on His Word, His Spirit, and His love to sustain us. This kind of dependency leads to a life of peace, security, and joy, knowing that God is in control and will meet our needs according to His will.

  • Negative Dependency: This is the unhealthy or idolatrous dependency on things or people that can never truly meet our deepest needs. It may involve relying on substances (like alcohol or drugs), behaviors (like excessive work, perfectionism, or gambling), or even people (such as an unhealthy dependence on approval or love from others). These forms of dependency ultimately leave us empty, unfulfilled, and trapped.

Scripture:
“There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” (Proverbs 14:12, NIV)

This verse warns us that the things we often rely on—outside of God—might appear helpful or fulfilling in the short term, but they ultimately lead to destruction. Whether it’s addiction, unhealthy relationships, or material possessions, these substitutes can never provide the lasting satisfaction or peace that only God can give.

3. Dependency as Addiction

Dependency can often morph into addiction when we rely on something outside of God to meet emotional or physical needs. Addiction, whether to substances, behaviors, or relationships, is a form of dependency that results from trying to fill an emotional or spiritual void. These dependencies might temporarily alleviate pain, but they do not address the root cause of our emptiness, which can only be healed by God's love and presence.

For example:

  • Substance dependency (like drug or alcohol addiction) is a desperate attempt to cope with emotional pain or unmet needs.
  • Behavioral dependency (like gambling or excessive work) can be a way to avoid facing deeper emotional struggles or feelings of inadequacy.
  • Person dependency (like codependency) involves placing one's worth, happiness, or sense of security in another person, often neglecting one's own identity in Christ.

Scripture:
“Do not be drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit.” (Ephesians 5:18, NIV)

This verse contrasts worldly dependencies (such as alcohol or substances) with the life-giving dependency on the Holy Spirit. When we seek fulfillment in the Spirit, we are filled with true peace, joy, and strength, rather than temporary relief that leads to destruction.

4. The Heart of True Dependency

True dependency is not about relying on anything other than God, but it’s about acknowledging that He is our true source. When we learn to depend on Him completely, we recognize that everything else in life flows from His will and provision. This dependency nurtures our relationship with Him and strengthens our faith.

Scripture:
“The Lord is my shepherd; I lack nothing.” (Psalm 23:1, NIV)

This verse encapsulates the heart of true dependency: when we depend on God, we lack nothing. God provides for our every need, guiding and protecting us along the way. When we turn to Him first, we find everything we need to live a fulfilling, peaceful, and purposeful life.

Choosing Healthy Dependency

God created us to be dependent on Him alone, but in a fallen world, we often seek to meet our needs through other means. It is essential to examine what we rely on in our lives and whether it aligns with God’s design for us. Whether it’s substances, behaviors, or relationships, unhealthy dependency leads to pain, destruction, and spiritual emptiness.

God’s call is for us to place our full dependence on Him, trusting in His provision and strength. When we do, we find that He meets our every need and leads us into a life of peace and fulfillment. The road to freedom lies in recognizing and letting go of unhealthy dependencies and choosing to depend on God, who is the only true and lasting source of life.

Balancing an Unbalanced Relationship

Balancing an unbalanced relationship can be challenging and it’s often possible with some effort and communication. Here are some steps to help address and potentially re-balance things:

Identify the Imbalance: Reflect on what feels unbalanced. Is it an issue of emotional support, time spent together, financial contributions, or something else? Clearly identifying the imbalance is the first step in addressing it.

Communicate Openly: Have an honest and respectful conversation with your partner about how you’re feeling. Use “I” statements to express your feelings without sounding accusatory, such as “I feel overwhelmed when I’m carrying most of the emotional load in our relationship.”

Listen Actively: Be sure to listen to your partner’s perspective as well. There might be reasons for the imbalance that you haven’t considered, and understanding their point of view can help in finding a solution.

Set Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries can help manage expectations and responsibilities. For example, if one person is overwhelmed with household chores, you might agree on a fair division of tasks.

Seek Compromise: Work together to find a solution that feels fair to both of you. This might involve negotiating and making some compromises. For example, if one partner is working long hours, perhaps the other can take on more responsibilities at home.

Re-evaluate Expectations: Sometimes, the imbalance comes from unrealistic expectations. Reassess what each of you expects from the relationship and make adjustments as necessary.

Seek Professional Help: If the imbalance is severe or persistent, consider seeing a couples’ therapist. A neutral third party can help facilitate communication and provide strategies to address the issues.

Focus on Self-Care: Take care of your own well-being, especially if you’re feeling drained. Maintaining your own physical and emotional health can provide a better foundation for dealing with relationship challenges.

Be Patient and Persistent: Rebalancing a relationship takes time and effort from both partners. Be patient and keep working together to make adjustments as needed.

Addressing imbalances in a relationship requires understanding, effort, and open communication from both partners. It’s a process that can strengthen your relationship if both are committed to making it work.

Patterns of Codependent Thinking

Understanding and overcoming codependency involves recognizing the unhealthy patterns in your relationships and replacing them with healthier perspectives rooted in faith. Here’s a closer look at the patterns of codependent thinking and strategies to break free:

Seeking Approval: Relying on others’ approval for self-worth. Believing that your value is dependent on how others perceive you can lead to a constant need for validation.

Fear of Abandonment: Worrying excessively about being alone or abandoned, which can lead to staying in unhealthy or destructive relationships to avoid loneliness.

Enabling Destructive Behaviors: Accepting or excusing harmful behaviors from others, often out of a desire to keep the peace or to feel needed.

Lack of Boundaries: Failing to set healthy limits, leading to overextending yourself and allowing others to take advantage of you.

Taking Responsibility for Others: Believing that you are responsible for other people’s feelings, actions, or happiness, which can lead to neglecting your own needs.

Strategies for Breaking Free

Acknowledge the Problem: Recognize and admit that codependency is affecting your life. This self-awareness is the first step toward change.

Replace Lies with Truth: Identify the false beliefs that fuel codependency, such as “I need others to validate my worth,” and replace them with God’s truth, like “My worth is defined by God’s love and grace.”

Develop Healthy Boundaries: Learn to set and maintain boundaries in your relationships. Clearly communicate your limits and be prepared to enforce them, ensuring that you maintain your emotional and psychological well-being.

Seek Validation from God: Shift your source of validation from others to your relationship with God. Spend time in prayer, meditation, and scripture reading to understand and embrace your identity and worth as defined by Him.

Build Self-Esteem: Work on improving your self-esteem by engaging in activities that affirm your worth and abilities. This could involve pursuing hobbies, setting personal goals, or seeking counseling.

Establish Independence: Cultivate your own interests and friendships outside of your primary relationship. Developing a sense of independence helps reduce reliance on others for your emotional needs.

Practice Self-Care: Take care of your own needs physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Prioritize your well-being and ensure that you are not neglecting yourself while trying to meet others’ needs.

Seek Support: Consider joining support groups or seeking professional counseling to help you navigate the process of breaking free from codependency. Professional guidance can offer valuable tools and perspectives.

Commit to Personal Growth: Embrace a journey of personal growth and spiritual development. Understanding and addressing codependency is part of growing into a healthier and more balanced individual.

Breaking Free from Codependency

Overcoming codependency requires a deep understanding of our true identity in Christ and a shift in how we relate to others. Here are some steps toward healing:

  1. Recognize Your Identity in Christ:
    Understand that your worth and identity come from God, not from how much you can give to others. You are loved and accepted by God, and your value is intrinsic because of His love.

    “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.” (Galatians 2:20, NIV)

  2. Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries:
    Setting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships. It’s important to understand where your responsibilities end and where others begin. Boundaries help protect your emotional health and prevent enabling behavior.

    “The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.” (Proverbs 27:12, NIV)

  3. Seek Healing and Counseling:
    Codependency often stems from deeper emotional wounds or patterns of behavior. Seeking counseling or support groups can help break the cycle of codependency and promote healing.

  4. Focus on Your Relationship with God:
    Strengthen your relationship with God, understanding that He is your ultimate source of love, comfort, and validation. He is the "living water" that can fill your needs, and only He can offer the peace and healing you seek.

    “Jesus answered, ‘Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst.’” (John 4:13-14, NIV)

Codependency is a relational pattern that can trap individuals in unhealthy dynamics of control, manipulation, and emotional exhaustion. By recognizing the signs of codependency, understanding its roots, and seeking healing through God, we can break free from this destructive cycle. Our true fulfillment, security, and strength come from God alone, and by depending on Him, we can create healthier, more balanced relationships that honor Him and our own well-being.

Key Scriptures on Codependency

Key scriptures that speak to the themes related to codependency, including healthy relationships, personal responsibility, boundaries, and mutual support:

  1. Galatians 6:2 (NLT)
    "Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ."

    • This scripture emphasizes the importance of supporting one another, but it also implies that we are to do so in a way that fosters mutual care and responsibility without enabling unhealthy behaviors.

  2. Romans 14:12 (NLT)
    "Yes, each of us will give a personal account to God."

    • God calls us to be responsible for our own actions. While we are to help others, we are not meant to take on the burden of their personal responsibility.

  3. Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)
    "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life."

    • This verse reminds us to protect our hearts and not let others' struggles or issues consume us in a way that compromises our well-being.

  4. 1 Corinthians 10:24 (NLT)
    "Don’t be concerned for your own good but for the good of others."

    • This scripture speaks to the heart of serving others, but in a way that is balanced and does not mean neglecting our own needs or well-being.

  5. Matthew 11:28-30 (NLT)
    "Then Jesus said, 'Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.'"

    • Jesus offers rest and relief for our burdens. This speaks to the need for balance in caring for others, as we are not meant to carry their burdens alone.

  6. Philippians 2:4 (NLT)
    "Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too."

    • This verse encourages selflessness in relationships, but also highlights the importance of mutual care rather than unhealthy dependence.

  7. 1 Peter 5:7 (NLT)
    "Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you."

    • We are called to give our worries to God, which reminds us that we do not need to carry the burdens of others in a way that leads to codependency or burnout.

  8. 2 Thessalonians 3:10 (NLT)
    "Even while we were with you, we gave you this command: 'Those unwilling to work will not get to eat.'"

    • This scripture emphasizes the importance of personal responsibility and the need to avoid enabling others in unhealthy or irresponsible behaviors.

  9. John 15:13 (NLT)
    "There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends."

    • While this speaks to sacrificial love, it also implies a healthy kind of giving that is rooted in love, not in neglecting personal boundaries or self-care.

  10. Ephesians 4:15 (NLT)
    "Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church."

    • This verse highlights the importance of speaking truth in love, which can help break unhealthy patterns like codependency and encourage growth and responsibility.

These scriptures provide guidance for living in healthy, balanced relationships with others, highlighting both the importance of mutual support and personal responsibility. They remind us to protect our hearts, establish boundaries, and encourage healthy, responsible behavior in our relationships.

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